The Difference Between a Boy and a Man

Finally an inclination to continue my blog posts !!

I named this one "the difference between a boy and a man" because of a situation that occurred in my life
- I had a friend who asked me the difference between what a woman and a girl was and I answered maturity. I know deep right. The question was sudden and because this particular person barely speaks to me I thought the faster I respond the more likely I would have been of some use to them (which was just a horrible way of thinking looking back at it). Either way months later I was going through the messages on my phone and I saw what I said and immediately felt dissatisfied at my answer. So I began to think about and ask others about it. Almost everyone gave me the whole spill about how a girl isn't mature and named different faults a girl has that a woman has "overcome" so to speak. "A woman is someone who is capable of being strong and girl is someone who doesn't know herself." For some reason these answers didn't sit well with me either. Now this isn't to say that I'm right and others are wrong but I just didn't feel as though this captured the full picture. This would say the goals for "girls" is to gain try and obtain strength over their "struggles" and woman are just females who have it all together. Well after listening to their answers I decided to talk to God and this is what I got after a brief conversation with Abba.

The terms "boy" and "man" and even "child" represent transitional stages in a person's life. So at some stage everyone will have been a "boy" ("girl" for females) and these are both considered "children". God told me that there is something to be gained in being a child and something to be gained while being an adult. That there is a time designated for both. How long that time is may vary per person but here's what God said defines both categories. More specifically a "boy/girl" is someone that is learning how to handle or carry their own identity while a "man/woman" is someone that is learning how to handle or carry others. Now obviously you must know how to handle yourself before you handle others but I believe God specifically left out any negative connotations or faults in the definitions because no matter what stage your at in life your failures never define you. "Struggle" was never meant to define any time in your life because you were designed to live your entire life in success. So my question was why do we put such a negative connotation to the being called girl, boy, or child? Well because we normally fixate at the fact that that's when we make the most mistakes (or at least we'll admit to those mistakes seeing as though it's been a while since we've made them). Since we want to be able to be identified by our successes/knowledge and not our mistakes we prefer to not be associated with being called a child. "When I was child I [did things]...as a child but when [I became a man] I put childish ways behind me". Most people see that as I must hurry and grow up instead of looking at that as he grew and eventually moved on naturally, and he did so not in desperation to be an adult or leave childish ways. So I say it is good for a boy to be a boy and a man to be man. If I've learned anything in my life its that you live better when you know yourself better. Remember it is always best to admit ignorance than fake it no matter what expectations people hold. Be proud of where you are at in life knowing that there is always something to be gained from the Father!

I might eventually change these to be more "inspirational" instead of sounding like random facts and stories lol we'll see.